Lately, I have.
Especially when it comes to the ins and outs of daily life.
But the truth is, that is life.
I can be so hard on myself sometimes.
Getting frustrated that I have so much that is not done, things I didn’t accomplish.
Lately, instead of getting down on myself for not “doing it all”, I’ve changed my outlook.
I’ve decided to look at the things I was able to do and things I did accomplish.
Things that may not have been on my to do list.
Things that seem so little but in the grand scheme of things make all the difference in the world.
Things like reading books with my baby girl.
Or going and sitting on the porch watching the rain fall.
Pulling AG around on her little train, saying chug a chug a choo choo until my throat hurts as she laughs away.
Cooking a nice dinner instead of finishing an order because hubs deserves it after a long day at work.
So we can all sit together as a family and talk about our days.
It’s those moments that are going to be instilled in my heart forever.
Tomorrow, next week, next month, even next year…
I won’t be thinking about the laundry that wasn’t done.
I won’t be thinking about the dishwasher that is full and needs to be emptied.
I won’t be thinking about the three little things on my to do list that I wasn’t able to cross off today.
As women and especially as mothers, I think we feel the need to do it all. Sometimes that need sets us up for failure. There are only 24 hours in a day. You can’t get any more. You can’t hit the pause button. So think about what has to be done and what can wait until tomorrow. Think about how you can get the most out of your day, while still enjoying it. Put yourself and your well being first.
And next time you get down on yourself for not getting everything done that you wanted, think about all you were able to accomplish. Think about the little moments that matter the most.
It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.
Love this! So very true!!
Erin Shell ~ Living A Love Song says
You hit the nail on the head. I get so caught up in all the housework that I don't get done all the time and I can only imagine how it'll be when we have a baby. I'll have to keep these words in the back of my mind for when that day comes to remind myself that its okay to not get it done and enjoy just being with my family.
This is so true. It's something I've been struggling with lately, especially since we have so many changes coming up in our life and things are so busy, and it's a struggle for me to delegate! It's perfectly OKAY to not get everything done in one day. Even if it does bug me 🙂
I love this. It's so hard trying to find balance between getting things done and sitting back and relaxing. You have a great outlook and a definitely need to adapt this way of thinking.
I can't believe you just posted this. I was no joke mid blog post…titled "Learning to let things go." It was beginning to sound like a big huge self-pity party so I stopped, but thank you for this. This puts things right into perspective!
Jenn @ Bliss to Bean says
I absolutely love this post!! I am so happy I put you on my sidebar!! 🙂 I can easily get down on myself for all that didn't get done…but you're right; we must make the minutes count. Especially with our wee ones–soon enough they'll off and running. Thank you for this reminder. 🙂
So true! You're a great mom, wife and friend!
love this post! so very true, and thank you for the wonderful reminder! i do this too, and some days its so hard to put it all in perspective. i love the "its not the load" quote – i'm adding that to the front of my planner!
I talk about this struggle daily. The happiest days for me are the ones where nothing on my to do list gets done, but I have spent amazing time spontaneously making memories with my family.
I've been reading a lot about the concept of being "the good enough mom." It deals with moving beyond the expectation of perfection and instead focusing on what it just good enough. Feels freeing!