Before we got pregnant (time #3 with AG) I finally started to feel like myself again. I stopped having a pity party and decided to take my happiness back into my hands. Everything I did, thought, looked up, dreamed of had to do with getting pregnant and having a baby. I stopped living my life. I knew it wasn’t good for my wellbeing and my marriage. So as hard as it was, I made a conscious effort to do something for myself each day. I set goals of things to accomplish and worked towards them. Some were health and fitness, some were craft projects, some was meal planning and trying new recipes. I read books and lots of blogs. I kept myself as busy as I could and in the end it relaxed me and made me feel better about myself.
But, they were right.
When you think about “what if I will never have a baby”. Think, God will give me a child because he knows how wonderful of a mom I will be. You may have twins right off the bat! I didn’t want to hear it. I didn’t want to believe there was a greater plan, but I’m living it. The things that are worth the most can be the hardest to reach. But, think about the long term, these two years or three will one day be a wrinkle in time. I wouldn’t go back and change what happened to me but there are things I wish I had done differently.
WOW, what a heartbreaking and strong post. THank you for sharing.
Struggling to get preganant is one of my biggest fears, because I KNOW it affects so many people. I'm getting married this fall and already I'm worried it won't happen on my timeline.
I'm so happy you have your sweet lil girl and thankful you shared this post.
xoxo
AMAZING post! I went through the same ordeal – losing a baby and then a year and a half of infertility issues, then a healthy pregnancy! my husband probably would have said the same thing that year. Your mind is on one straight path to motherhood you FORGET you're MARRIED! To a wonderful man who loves you unconditionally, even when you forget to love him the way he's loving you! Thank God our men stuck around 😉
Thanks for sharing!!!
Amanda
http://www.ah-themayorswife.blogspot.com
My husband said something similar at one point … It made me realize how I was treating him. We both grew and are NOW more in love with each other and appreciate our daughter oh so much. It took us so long for her to be ours 🙂
And now I'm crying {at work!} Beautiful post…so many people need to read it! Thanks for sharing.
LOVED this post. It's so true. So much of what you wrote was true for me too. It is so hard to see beyond the infertility and remember you married someone not to give you a baby but to give you a lifetime of happiness and it took a lot to be OK if the baby thing happened and to say "you are enough".
Aw this is a great story, you are a great friend. Thanks for sharing with us too.
I wish more of my friends were understanding like you. Having lost 4 babies, I have these same feelings of wanting a baby so badly.
I wish I had this to read back when we were trying. You are SO right on everything. I felt this exact same way! We are so lucky to have such amazing husbands that stood by!
Thank you for this post.
Well said. It's so true. infertility was the hardest thing I've ever experienced, but I wouldn't trade any of it for Eli.
such an honest post!!! I think some people just have no clue! Thanks for the reminders!
This was such a wonderful post, thanks for sharing 🙂
That was beautifully written. As my hubby and I venture into the world of TTC (only a couple more months) I cannot help but be nervous about what is to come. Thank you for sharing.
Well said, Leah 🙂 I couldn't agree more that your marriage can survive anything after infertility. I had some pretty ugly days and I'm so thankful that my husband was able to see past them and love me just the same.
Love this post and I hope your friend will have a happy ending like we have very soon 🙂
Amazing, and so powerful. Thanks for sharing something so personal and intimate – it contained some great advice for those who want to conceive.
I know it's a little late but I just found you through From Mrs. To Mama and this is great advice that I will begin using right now as we are just starting to ttc. Thanks!
This is a really powerful reminder. Thank you. We have been undergoing infertility treatments for a year and a half. They are so all-consuming that I know there have been times when I've neglected my husband, my friends, and just living my life!
I just googled “When all you want is a baby”, because that is how I feel nowadays. And then I found this blog post. It couldn’t describe my feelings any better.
THANK YOU!
I really needed this today.
Love from Norway